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Android gaming is getting bigger and better every month it seems and there is always a slew of new titles coming to Google Play. Whether you’re a casual gamer or you want something with a beat more meat on its bones, there’s usually a game coming out to suit everyone’s taste.

Gaming on mobile has been improving at a far greater rate than any technology that came before it. In 2005, if you had told anyone that you could play Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas on a telephone with the same graphics as it had on a PS2, you probably would’ve been laughed out of the building. Now there are games that look and play even better than that!

In our list of the best free Android games, we look at the some of the Play Store's most impressive free-to-play titles across a number of genres.
Let’s take a look at the best new Android games from the last month!

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You’ve reviewed your resume, practiced your elevator pitch, and reviewed a few stories you can share during the interview. All is well, and you’re feeling confident. And when the interviewer says, “Tell me about a time you disagreed with your supervisor,” you are ready to go and launch straight into a story about that one time you bravely confronted the director of marketing at your previous company about a new campaign you had a bad feeling about.

Okay, so maybe that doesn’t sound like you—yet. Let’s take a step back and talk about how you can get there.

Pick the Right Story

All these “Tell me about a time when…” questions require stories. As a hiring manager, it’s incredibly unsatisfying to interview someone who has no stories to share. After all, how can someone know what you can do if you can’t talk about what you’ve done? Don’t be that job candidate.

So, how do you find the right stories to share? Go through the job description and highlight all the soft skills that are featured. You’ll likely find things like “ability to work on a team and independently,” “comfort with multitasking,” or “strong communication skills.” Then, come up with an example of a time you demonstrated each of these traits—though keep in mind that you don’t necessarily need a different example for each. In fact, it’s better to come up with stories that are flexible, since you’ll likely have to adapt them to the exact questions anyway.

There are, of course, a few things that interviewers frequently like to ask about that will not be on the job descriptions. Be prepared for “negative” questions, like “Tell me about a time you had to deal with a conflict on your team” or “Tell me about a time you failed.” It’s not that interviewers are out to get you—how you handle conflict and failure are good things to know—it’s just not the best idea to put “must deal with frequent team conflict” in a job description.

Finally, brainstorm a few more questions that could potentially come up based on the position you’re applying for and your particular situation. For example, if you have a big gap on your resume, you’ll want to be prepared to talk about why you’re no longer at your previous job (more on that here), or if you’re coming into a newly merged department, you should be prepared to discuss a time you’ve been part of a big change.

Make a Statement

Once you have your stories, it’s time to think a little deeper about why these questions are asked in the first place. What does the interviewer actually want to know?

Take a few seconds to think about this before you start answering the question—even if you have the perfect story prepared—so that you can make an appropriate introductory statement about essentially what the moral of your story is going to be. The reason for this is that even though the interviewer is specifically asking you to tell a story, the idea is that he or she will learn something about the way you do things. The problem with this is that what the interviewer gleans from your story could be very different from what you were hoping to share.

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For example, say you tell that story about standing up to the director of marketing when asked to talk about conflict with a previous supervisor. You eloquently move through the story about how you shared your hesitation about the new marketing campaign to no avail, but once the initial numbers came in, it was clear that you were right. You triumphantly showed the performance to the director, and she agreed to scrap the campaign. While this story is definitely suitable, there are actually a few different ways it could be taken the wrong way. The interviewer could hone in on the fact that you really didn’t do anything until it was too late or that you were unpersuasive or a poor communicator the first time you raised concerns about the campaign.

To make sure your stories are as effective as possible, make a statement before you start telling the story. In this particular example, it might be something like this, “I learned early on in my professional career that it’s fine to disagree if you can back up your hunches with data.” Now, when you tell your story, it’s not about the various ways you could have approached the situation better, but about how you learned from that experience and how you use it to inform future disagreements.

Finish Strong

So, when it comes to these behavioral questions, have some stories prepared and then practice framing them based on the question you’re asked. Practice, practice, practice, and you’ll sound like a natural in no time. The final piece of the puzzle is wrapping up your answers well. You don’t want to ruin your perfect frame and story by ending your response with, “And… yeah.”

Instead, try connecting the story back to the company or position. Quickly explaining how your experience would be useful in the position you’re interviewing for is always a strong way to wrap up. Another way to finish up a response is to give the “in short” version of the answer. For example, “In short, it’s not that I’m an amazing multitasker—I just set and review my priorities frequently.” Wrapping up an interview answer (see more in-depth tips here) is such a commonly neglected area of preparation, but it can really help you nail the “strong communicator” impression, so don’t disregard it when you’re practicing.

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The thing people assume about these questions is that they’re all about the story. And, yes, that is a critical component. But even if your story isn’t exactly what the interview question asked for, if it’s framed well and you go the extra mile to tell the interviewer what he or she should take away from it, you’ll actually end up making a stronger impression.

So, don’t stress too much about having the perfect stories lined up or the exact relevant experience. Instead, focus on the messages you’re trying to communicate to the hiring manager, and back them up with the stories that you have.

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How to Answer "Tell Me About a Time When..." Interview Questions

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If you want to be the best, you have to know how to play with the best.

Pokémon Go has taken the world by storm, with the U.K. as the latest country to join the fray. People everywhere are seemingly running around at random, looking at their phones for one express purpose: to catch 'em all.

I've been playing non-stop since Pokémon Go's debut in the U.S., and I've collected a pretty good list of tips and tricks to help you excel in Pokémon Go.

1. Visit parks with multiple PokéStops

While you can find Pokémon just about anywhere, if you want to find lots of Pokémon, you want to go to a populated area. Cities are a pretty good starting point, but we prefer parks — especially parks with a good body of water, or saltwater beach parks — for the ultimate Pokémon catching experience. Different terrain will help you find different types of Pokémon, while parks with multiple PokéStops ensure that you won't run out of Poké Balls while hunting. (In our testing, PokéStops also encourage the spawning of more Pokémon — especially if you attach a lure.

2. Hunt in pairs

When Pokémon appear, they appear for everyone and can be caught by every person in your area. As such, hunting in pairs (or even groups) is encouraged: Not only is it fun to banter with friends while wandering your neighborhood for Pokémon, but you can also cover more ground as you try to figure out just where that three-footstep Kadabra might be hiding.

3. Hunt (safely) at night

First of all: Don't get stabbed or robbed. It's clearly not safe to go by yourself to a Lure-enabled PokéStop in the middle of a city at night. That said, you can smartly hunt in pairs or small groups at night to find Pokémon you wouldn't ordinarily find during the daytime — just stick to well-lit areas and have a car nearby. (I've been able to find quite a number of awesome Fairy-type Pokémon either by sitting in my house or wandering close by on nighttime walks with my dogs.)

4. Use your radar ring to discover Pokémon

As you wander the world, your avatar has a small pulsing ring that glows around them. This ring is your personal radar in the game: It's what determines whether you're close enough to a PokéStop or Gym to use it, and it's also what pulls zero-footprint Pokémon out of hiding.

Once you've tracked a Pokémon to zero steps, that means it's in your immediate vicinity: If you stand still for a few moments, your radar field should bring it out of hiding. So no, you don't have to try and jump your neighbor's fence or run through graveyards to find wandering Pokémon — your radar should reveal them without any extra work on your part.

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indicate a Pokémon spawn point: If you hang out in that vicinity for long enough, you have a chance of seeing a creature not on your radar map appear. Note that I said "chance" — it's far from a guarantee of a rare Pokémon appearing. Those leaves also don't indicate the location of the current Pokémon you're tracking on the Nearby list; don't go chasing foliage in the hopes of catching that Drowzee.

6. Want to catch a lot of Pokémon quickly? Try parking lots

For whatever reason, Pokémon seem to love spawning in parking lots — especially if they're near PokéStops. I've had luck seeing four, five, and even six common Pokémon show up in the lot by our local Trader Joe's, as well as several gas stations.

7. When catching Pokémon, turn off AR

It's pretty awesome to see that Pikachu spawn on your coffee machine, but AR (augmented reality) can often make it more difficult to catch your creatures — and drain your battery, too. To keep your device steady and ready for anything, flip AR off — you can always turn it back on if you find a Pokémon in a particularly hilarious location.

8. How to get bonuses when throwing Poké Balls

When you try to catch a Pokémon, the goal is to toss your ball inside the shrinking ring around them and have it land on the Pokémon's head or nose. But there are special catch bonuses that can help improve (though not guarantee) your chances of keeping that Pokémon locked inside that Poké Ball rather than breaking free.

Whatever bonus you're going for, remember to tap and hold on the Poké Ball to start the ring cycle so that you can wait to toss your ball until the ring is at the correct point. (Even if the Pokémon attempts to rear back or do some sort of movement to break the circle, keep holding your Poké Ball — they'll eventually return, and you won't lose your ball if you keep holding onto it.)

To get the Nice 10XP bonus, you want to catch the Pokémon at the moment the circle is at its widest. That usually means throwing while the circle is at its smallest, and attempting to land straight on the Pokémon's head.

To get the Great 50XP bonus, you want to catch the Pokémon when the circle is exactly halfway: I've only gotten this bonus once or twice, because it requires crazy timing. Ideally, you want to toss the ball when the circle is two sizes away from its biggest size, and land square in the center of the circle.

To get the Excellent 100XP bonus, you need to catch the Pokémon in the direct middle of the circle when at its smallest. This move is easier to attempt on smaller Pokémon (like Eevee) instead of bigger creatures, because of where their heads are positioned relative to the circle. To score the bonus, wait until the circle is pretty small, then toss your ball straight on.

To get the Curveball 10XP bonus — which also comes with a near-guaranteed success rate at catching the Pokémon — you can spin the Poké Ball in a clockwise or counter-clockwise direction until it starts vibrating, then toss it toward the Pokémon. I find this method pretty difficult to achieve regularly, so I often do an alternate method: Instead of curving, then tossing, I put the side of my thumb on the screen and throw — the contact patch makes the game think I'm spinning the ball before throwing.

9. Tap erroneously-thrown balls to try and recover them

This trick seems to work about 50 percent of the time, so take it with a grain of salt: If you accidentally toss a ball into the weeds, away from your Pokémon, you can tap the ball to try and recover it back into your collection. I've seen this trick work, but I've also been unable to replicate it every time, so tap at your own risk.

10. If your game crashes when catching a Pokémon, don't fret

Game developer Niantic's servers are frequently overloaded, and as such, sometimes your game can crash or severely hang after you catch a Pokémon, leaving it motionless in its Poké Ball. Don't panic: Force quit the game and re-open it. In the crash, you'll either have automatically caught the Pokémon (check your Pokédex), or it will still be spawned and waiting for you.

11. Play during off-hours

As much fun as it is to play at lunchtime, the afternoon hours are often some of the busiest times for the game. If you can play later in the evening or early in the morning, you'll have a much more enjoyable time exploring the world.

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12. Use Ingress to find PokéStops

Niantic used many of the maps within its previous game, Ingress, to populate PokéStops and Gyms in the Pokémon Go world. As such, you can use Ingress's map system to figure out where, exactly, you should target your hunting efforts. (If you see Portals on Ingress's map, those translate to PokéStops.)

13. Drop lures at bars or shops if you don't want to hunt

If it's lazy Pokémon-catching tips you seek, you can find quite a few Pokémon by attaching Lures to your local coffee shop or bar and just sitting back and waiting. You'll usually get a new Pokémon spawning inside the Lure every 3-5 minutes, with a chance of a rare Pokémon appearing.

14. Be picky with your Stardust and Candy

When you first start Pokémon Go, it's tempting to want to boost and evolve your first Pokémon, but I'd encourage waiting: As you level up, you'll find lots of higher-CP creatures — and those will often become much more powerful when evolved.

15. When evolving creatures, choose the higher-CP creatures

When power boosting your Pokémon, you'll see a CP ring around their portrait: The amount filled in the ring indicates how much more powerful you can make them before you personally need to level up as a trainer. If they're high-level to begin with, the result will be a much-higher evolved creature.

16. Use Lucky Eggs before an XP spree or evolving Pokémon

Lucky Eggs, which you can get as level rewards and buy from the Shop, will double your personal Trainer XP you collect for 30 minutes. You can use these pretty effectively to grind up your level while catching multiple Pokémon, but the best time to use these eggs is when you're evolving Pokémon.

Normally, you get 500XP for evolving Pokémon; with a Lucky Egg enabled, that jumps to 1000XP every time. If you have a ton of Pidgeys, for example, you can evolve them into Pigeottos with just 12 Pidgey Candy — and net a ton of experience, in the meantime.

17. Trying to get your egg to hatch? Move it around your room

If you don't have time to take a walk to get your 9.8km/10km egg to hatch, try moving your phone back and forth on your desk or around your office — if your trainer moves, you're in a place where the GPS signal is unsteady enough that you can trick the game into thinking you're walking. Keep moving your phone back and forth, and eventually your egg will hatch!

(Sure, you could also put your phone on a dog or a ceiling fan, but this is highly ill-advised unless you really want a broken phone.)

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18. Match up Pokémon with their opposing types before a battle

You might be woefully undermatched against an opposing Gym, but you can still do well and damage their Gym's Prestige if you know one simple trick: How to match up an opposing Pokémon's type and element. Each creature has a primary type, which usually matches up to some sort of element. And, as in the real world, some elements are more successful than others.

Here's a quick list of each element type, and what opposing types of Pokémon are best-suited to take them down:

Normal: Fighting

Fire: Water, Ground, Rock

Water: Electric, Grass

Electric: Ground

Grass: Fire, Ice, Poison, Flying, Bug

Ice: Fire, Fighting, Rock, Steel

Fighting: Flying, Psychic, Fairy

Poison: Ground, Psychic

Ground: Water, Grass, Ice

Flying: Electric, Ice, Rock

Psychic: Bug, Ghost

Bug: Fire, Flying, Rock

Rock: Water, Grass, Fighting, Ground, Steel

Ghost: Ghost

Dragon: Ice, Dragon, Fairy

Steel: Fire, Fighting, Ground

Fairy: Poison, Steel

19. Dodge at the start of each battle

I picked up this tip from our Android Central pal Russell Holly, and it's a good one: If you swipe left or right to dodge at the beginning of a battle, you'll often give yourself an extra attack or two before your opponent can catch up. This is especially true for XS types like Eevees, whose quick burst attacks and dodges can take down a big creature before they can react.

20. Snipe a neutral gym

If you can't personally fight a gym battle, or you're traveling with a friend who's exhausting all their powerful Pokémon to beat an opposing gym, you can wait until the gym gets taken over; once it's a neutral white, anyone can drop their Pokémon in.

If you're fast enough, you can re-capture a gym of yours that an opponent has been trying to take down, or you can add your most powerful Pokémon to the neutral gym after your buddy has fatigued all their high-level creatures in defeating the gym. And once you've taken it for your team, your buddy has time to heal their high-level Pokémon and can put in one of their own.

21. Add Pokémon of different types to a friendly gym

Adding a Pokémon to an already-friendly gym? Make sure you vary up which type of Pokémon you're adding — an all-Fire gym of Flareons and Vulpixes might look cool, but it's incredibly vulnerable to a trainer with Water and Ground-type Pokémon.

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Pokémon Go: 20 tips, tricks, and cheats to be the best trainer in the world!

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Heading into a big interview can be terrifying, not unlike the feeling I’d imagine you’d have if you were about to jump out of a plane for the first time ever.
Of course, there's little risk of actual death (unless, of course, you're improbably applying for head coach at lion-taming school), but it’s nonetheless an anxiety-producing scenario.
Summon your self-confidence and conjure your courage in five easy ways.

1. Stop the Storytelling

Your brain’s primary job is to minimize danger and maximize reward, so in a situation where there's an unknown outcome—especially a situation where you might screw up—your mind’s going to start telling you stories designed to keep you safe, tales that will help you from feeling the crush.

I'll never get the job, and I'm about to get called on my spectacular lack of suitability. What if the hiring manager hates me? These kinds of opportunities always go to someone on the inside or someone they already know, I have no chance.

Your brain will always spin stories when it doesn't know what will happen, so it's vital that you recognize what your overly analytic mind is doing in creating these works of fiction.

Notice the fear-filled worries and let yourself consider the hilarity of them for just a moment, and then get yourself back to reality stat. It’s the only way you’re going to build the confidence you need for a home-run interview.

2. Return to Your Best

Being at your best means being at the top of your game, the place where you’re buzzing, flowing, and really feeling alive. When you’re in that place, two things are happening. First off, you're simply using everything you've got in the moment (all those skills, all that experience, all your smarts, all your talents, all your strengths and all that instinct) and, secondly, you’re not letting anxiety get in the way of your confidence.

In an interview, these two things combine to give you the sense that this is OK; that you’re OK. It’s sitting in that chair feeling whole and resourceful rather than incomplete and on edge.

To enlist this feeling, try this exercise: Sit and close your eyes, and dive into how it feels when you’re firing on all cylinders. Check in to see where that feeling lives in your body—maybe in your stomach or your chest or your fingertips. Imagine that place in your body being the source of this energy, this flow, this power, this ease. Then, when you need it, just focus on that place in your body, and you’ll return to your best.

3. Breathe

Anxious nerves are a physiological response to risk, a response that gets your heart thumping, palms sweating, and thoughts spinning. You're pretty much screwed while this response has you in its grasp, so it's fortunate that you have a built-in stabilizer—a way of anchoring your experience in something steadier and more enabling: your breath.

If, pre-interview, you start to feel the anxiety start to creep in, gently shift your attention to your breath. Pay attention to it as it moves in and out of your body. Keep your attention on the breath, noticing the sensations in your body as you exhale, and even the momentary pause between the in breath and out breath.

Interrupting the script written by anxiety and instead focusing on the breath re-activates your pre-frontal cortex—the part of your brain that allows you to think deliberately, express your personality, and make decisions.

Fully experiencing your cycle of breathing is a way of returning you to a place of acceptance where confidence lives.

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4. Normalize Rejection

As experiences go, rejection is a pretty sucky one. Getting dismissed as a job candidate makes you wonder whether you're really as good as you sometimes think you are. You start to question whether you did something wrong or whether there's something about you that the hiring manager just didn't like. The warm wash of shame makes you feel small and insignificant. It’s a really low feeling and no good for your self-esteem.

Rejection doesn’t have to be some big, looming scary thing. If you don’t get asked you back for a second interview, it’s not the end of the world. It doesn’t mean you’re not good enough.

If you get to third round, but ultimately don’t get an offer, it’s OK. You’ll bounce back. Try not to view it as an outright judgment against you personally, but simply as a sign that it wasn’t the right job for you at this point in time.

Try not to let the professional rebuff diminish your value.

5. Humanize the Process

It's easy to enter into the meeting thinking that the interviewer is only there to judge you. Sometimes you might even cast them as the Big Bad—an opposing force who wants to catch you make a mistake or say the wrong thing.

The reality, of course, is that you were invited in because your resume and cover letter caught the hiring manager’s eye. You were asked to come in because someone at the company wants to get to know you. The hiring manager wants to hear more about the experiences he read about on paper, and I promise you no one is looking to see how much shaking you can do in those boots of yours.

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Believe it or not, they’re on your side. They want to see who you are and what you can do, and how well you’ll fit in the team and the culture. Their aim is to offer the job to a decent human being who can add value, so consider them as an ally who wants you to land the job rather than an enemy who wants to see you trip up.

By getting in the practice of summoning confidence with these five tips, you’ll become a stronger, more articulate interviewer. Instead of fearing the inevitable job interview, you’ll look forward to it, knowing you have what it takes to succeed both mentally and physically.

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Can we please put all this fireworks business to bed already?

The female orgasm is often shrouded in mystery so it’s no surprise that there are so many misconceptions about how to get one and how often you’re supposed to have one. (Hint: Don’t go by what you see in the movies.)

Even if you’re a pro at reaching the big “O,” you may still fall for some common falsehoods. So with the help of Linda Banner, Ph.D., a sexual medicine specialist in San Jose, Calif., we decided to shed some light on pervasive orgasm myths.

Myth #1: When you have sex, you will have an orgasm.

Somewhere along the way, in our goal-oriented culture, it’s practically become an expectation for both partners to have orgasm every time they have sex. But for most women, that’s simply not realistic. Only about a third of women reach orgasm regularly through intercourse, according to the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada. “Having an orgasm every time—that’s not the norm,” says Banner. Some days you’re just too tired, stressed, distracted or simply not feeling it to achieve orgasm.

Myth #2: Vaginal sex is the best way for women to reach orgasm.

Turns out, not so much. Most women flat-out can’t reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, according to the Mayo Clinic. One third of women can climax during sex if they have some extra stimulation, such as oral or manual stimulation, according to the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada. That’s likely because that extra attention targets the clitoris, which is often essential for reaching the big “O.” That said, others may get off by having anal sex or even by having their nipples and breasts stimulated, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Myth #3: Orgasms are these explosive, earth-shattering events.

There’s no question that orgasms can be amazingly intense, but they can also be surprisingly subtle. According to the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada, some women don’t feel their pelvic floor muscles contract during orgasm, but there’s often a sense of “release” afterward and feeling relaxed and content. “People think it should be this over-the-top, ‘lights out’ event, but it may be something as benign as, ‘Oh, that felt good,'” says Banner. You can even have an orgasm and totally not know it.

Myth #4: Orgasms are purely physical phenomena.

For many women, orgasms are as much mental as they are physical. In other words, your partner can try to stimulate you until the cows come home, but if your mind is elsewhere, an orgasm will prove elusive. “There’s a huge mental component to orgasms,” says Banner. “If your stress levels are high or if you’re distracted, anxious or frightened, it’s certainly going to have an impact on your sexual response. You’re not going to have a good time.”

Myth #5: There’s something wrong if you can only orgasm by yourself.

One third of women never reach orgasm during sex alone, but they can climax through oral and manual stimulation, such as masturbation and using a vibrator—and there’s zero wrong with that. According to the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada, “Having orgasms by means other than intercourse is a normal variation of female sexuality.” Banner agrees: “Some women have orgasms from masturbation and not from their partner—and that’s fine.”

Myth #6: Having simultaneous orgasms with your partner is a realistic goal.

For many women, it can be hard enough to reach orgasm during sex, let alone trying to sync your watches and make sure that your climax is perfectly timed with your partner’s (no pressure there). This is especially tricky if you’re having sex with a man, considering that, on average, women take up to 20 minutes to reach orgasm, while men climax on average within two to three minutes after starting sex, according to Brown University. “I don’t know who perpetuated simultaneous orgasms—porno movies probably,” says Banner. “I can’t imagine who in their right mind would plant that seed to think that’s close to normal.”

Myth #7: Sex without orgasm = failure.

Having an orgasm is an incredible sensation, but it doesn’t have to be the end-all-be-all, singular goal of sex. Getting busy can still be a supremely pleasurable, bonding, and relaxing experience regardless of whether it concludes with a climax.

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7 Myths About Orgasms That Are Totally False

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Is stripping down before bed the key to a blissful night of rest?

It’s not easy to fall asleep—and stay that way—when it’s hot and humid. While you can slip into your tiniest tank top and boy shorts, you should really consider sleeping naked. Whether you’ve got a bed to yourself or share one with a partner, ditching your clothes before catching some zzz’s can bring both physical and mental health benefits.

With summer in full swing, there’s no better time to ditch your PJs for something that’s a million times more breathable: nothing. Here are five legit reasons you should try sleeping naked.

1. You’ll get a better night’s sleep.

If you’re sweating throughout the night, there’s a good chance you won’t be comfortable and your sleep will be interrupted. The National Sleep Foundation suggests catching your zzz’s in a room that’s between 60 and 67 degrees. Sleeping in the nude will eliminate an extra layer and help you stay cool—just make sure you’ve got breathable cotton sheets. Heavy fibers like silk can make things a little too sweaty, Rachel Salas, M.D., an associate professor of neurology at Johns Hopkins Medicine who specializes in sleep medicine, tells SELF. Skimping on sleep can impact every aspect of your health, so doing whatever you can to get more of it will benefit you in countless ways.

2. It’ll keep your vagina happy.

“Especially in women with recurrent vaginitis/vaginosis, ‘airing out’ the vagina at night is a good idea,” Michael Cackovic, M.D., an ob/gyn at Ohio State Wexner Medical Center, tells SELF. The tight, moist environment inside your undies can be a breeding ground for yeast and bacteria. Most gynos recommend wearing cotton underwear daily because it’s lightweight and lets your vagina breathe, but going commando every now and then is a good idea, too. Especially if you keep your lady parts cooped up in skintight clothing all day long.

3. It can help soothe your skin problems.

“Clothing, especially tight or fitted clothing, can cause friction or irritation as it rubs against the skin while you are sleeping, potentially worsening skin conditions characterized by inflammation and irritation,” Sejal Shah, M.D., board-certified dermatologist and RealSelf advisor, tells SELF. Plus, when sweat that gets trapped in your PJs it creates a warm, moist environment—the perfect breeding ground for yeast and fungus, Shah adds. If you have eczema, psoriasis, or any other skin condition, it’s worth seeing if sleeping sans clothing provides some relief.

4. It makes bed time so much sexier.

If you share a bed with someone, sleeping without clothes just makes bedtime sexier and sex way easier. When you’re both crawling into bed totally naked, chances are you’ll squeeze in a little bit of sexy time before you doze off. All that skin-to-skin contact is hard to ignore, no matter how tired you are.

5. You’ll feel more confident.

“Sleeping naked creates a freeing and confident feeling,” Stacy Nadeau, Dove self-esteem expert and women’s empowerment ambassador, tells SELF. “There’s something about not covering up that makes me feel beautiful. When women feel beautiful, we radiate happiness and confidence, so if it helps, why not sleep naked?”

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5 Reasons You Should Be Sleeping Naked

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You have a voice for a reason.

No matter how incredible your sex life currently is, at one point during a past sexual experience, your inner monologue has probably sounded like this: Ugh. What even is going on? Are they seriously mistaking my inner-thigh crease for my clitoris right now? I swear, the state of sex ed in America…OK, focus. Should I say something? Because I have a snowball’s chance in hell of orgasming and might actually fall asleep if this continues. But they seem so into it. *Distressed emoji* What if it I kill the mood? What if it offends them? Maybe I’ll just move around a little so they’re hitting a better spot...

It’s fine, pretty much everyone has had sex that wasn’t anywhere near orgasmic territory. If you haven’t, you should play the lottery, because you’re obviously an extremely lucky person. The solution to these moments is clear: Speak up in bed. But it’s also easier said than done. There are various reasons why saying what you want during sex can be tough. Maybe your partner’s ego is about as fragile as the glass of wine you wish you had to make it through this experience. Maybe what you really want to do is incorporate a vibrator, and you think that’ll kill your partner’s physical or mental boner. Or perhaps you’re just wishing life could be like the movies, since characters often seem to ravage each other perfectly without having to make a single course correction. But in real life, sometimes the sex just isn’t working for you, and the only real solution is to say something about it (because no, faking an orgasm isn’t really a solution except in extremely rare cases). Talking about sex while having it doesn’t have to ruin the mood, especially not if you follow these four tips:

Use the classic sexual Jedi mind trick. Yes, saying something like, “Holy sh*t, how could you possibly think anyone on the planet likes that move?” or, “If anyone ‘orgasmed’ after you did that to them, they were faking it,” will probably upset your partner. On the other hand, a phrase like “I love it when you go more slowly” makes it seem like it’s something they’ve already done, which is pretty genius.

Give them a compliment sandwich. As in, say something that makes them feel like a sexual savant, air your complaint/request, then finish it off with another compliment. Example: “God, every time you go down on me I want to quit my job so we can just do this forever. To make it even better, can you lick a little harder? When you do that, your tongue actually feels like heaven, like I hear angels singing and everything.” A little OTT, but you get the gist.

Show, don’t tell. You can steer them in the right direction without even using your voice. Just take their hand and show them what you like, or put your hands on their hips to prompt a faster/deeper/whatever you like movement, or even get into a sex position that puts you in control, like woman on top. Then you can do whatever you like and explain how good it feels, which will certainly get the message across.

Remember that you deserve to have the best time possible in bed. This is really at the heart of it. Giving yourself permission to go after what you want during sex validates the fact that you should be having good sex in the first place. Once you truly believe that, the rest basically turns into a cakewalk.

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Proof there's way more to fitness challenges than an "after" photo.

As a former college volleyball athlete, I’ve always been kind of a fitness junkie. My teammates had a running joke that I’d be the first to become a bodybuilder once college was over—because you know it’s really all about those gainz. Working out in college was basically my job, and I really enjoyed the feeling of working up a good sweat. After the ~glory days~ were over, staying in a routine of going to the gym wasn’t a problem for me. But in order to see the results I wanted, I knew I needed to stick with a consistent, structured training program. I just couldn’t get myself to do it alone.

Between moving across the country twice and having three different jobs, adhering to an actual program has been impossible. I’ve started (and not finished) Kayla Itsines‘ Bikini Body Guides about six different times. I think I made it to week seven (out of 12). Maybe. My previous training regimen for volleyball required 12 weeks of grueling workouts. I’m talking sprints, puke-worthy HIIT circuits, and heavy AF Olympic lifting. I did that every summer for four years. So why was sticking to a plan so damn hard now?

I’ve concocted every possible excuse: I’m a commitment-phobe. I’m too busy. The plans are too hard. I’m getting older. It wasn’t due to a lack of interest, it was a problem with the logistics. So when my SELF coworkers invited (ahem, challenged) me to participate in SELF’s 6 Weeks To Summer program with A Bikini A Day I figured I’d give it a shot. I agreed to do the entire thing, but I was mentally preparing for the fact that I’d likely check out around week three or four.

The good news, I completed the ENTIRE program. Every strength workout, fitness class, and cardio session became a big check mark on my calendar. I wasn’t expecting a massive transformation or really anything radical at all. But I’ve noticed a lot of changes as a result from this challenge. Some are physical (hello teeny-weeny baby abs), some are emotional, but the most important takeaway for me has been mental. Here’s what I learned that helped me be successful in sticking with it.

I got my workouts in order BEFORE I started.

The most important thing you can do when it comes to fitness challenges is getting your life organized. With other challenges I had always written my workouts in a notebook that I took with me to the gym every day. Funny though, I never wrote the entire program. Maybe that’s why it didn’t stick—figuring out what I had to do and when I had to do it was a daily chore. All the materials for this challenge though were available online (aka they were written out for me). I could skim the entire program for an overview (this also helped me plan ahead). Being an athlete I like to know what the game plan is—both short and long term. I downloaded all the workout graphics on my phone so I would never have the excuse of “Meh. I don’t know what I have to do today.” I was also sent daily emails about what exactly I had to do that day as a little reminder to get it done!

I made my workouts a priority.

I started to consider working out as an appointment with myself. Just like I’d never flake on an meeting for work or a lunch date with a friend, bailing on myself shouldn’t be an option either. In college, being late to a workout or practice was practically a sin. And not showing up…well I never figured out what the punishment for that would be. *Shudders.* My daily routine started to become a non-negotiable.

I also told everyone what I was doing. Once I told my co-workers, close friends and oh-so-personal Insta audience, I was pretty much committed. It’s kinda like liquid eyeliner: Once you start, you’ve gotta finish.

I learned to stop getting in my own way.

Everything we do, every decision we make in life is motivated by something. The hardest part is nailing down what that something really is. When it came to fitness challenges I had tried previously, my why was pretty shallow. I wanted Kayla Itsines’ abs, Katrina Scott’s arms, Tash Okaley’s booty, Emily Skye’s legs, you get it. I was really into looking a certain way, or even more unobtainable, looking like someone else. It’s totally fine to want those things, but I put a lot of pressure on myself to do things perfectly, see results quickly, and have a badass transformation pic.

Well that never happened. I’d get burnt out, frustrated, or just plain annoyed that I was working out all the time and didn’t have dem abs yet.

Compare that mindset to when I was training for volleyball, my why had nothing to do with how I looked. Training was about how my body could function. I wanted to jump higher, run faster, beat out my teammates, and ultimately beat myself. Nothing about that why was aesthetic.

Midway through this challenge I realized my why was no longer to look good for a summer vacation I booked, it was to prove that I could follow through on a commitment I made to myself. I didn’t burden myself with expectations. I let it all happen. I did my workouts day in and day out, because I knew I had to finish. I hate disappointing people, but why in the past had I been so comfortable disappointing myself?

Deep thought, right? But, it was a good question to ask myself because the answer was clear—I shouldn’t be. So I was going to step it up and be good to my body and my mind. For the first time, the challenge was less about making myself look different, and more about feeling proud of my hard work.

I held myself accountable—and so did my squad.

That shift didn’t make it easy though. It was still hard as hell to stick with it for six full weeks. Had I not committed to writing this article, or had I not told friends what I was doing, I may not have made it through. I usually don’t like telling people about working out because I don’t want to come off as that annoying fitness friend. Working out has always been my thing that I enjoyed doing for myself and didn’t feel the need to really include anyone else.

When I didn’t feel like doing a workout or doubted whether it was really worth it, my co-workers pushed me to dig deep and stick with my why. This challenge was an incredibly important lesson in accountability and the power of including others in your goals. In classic social media editor fashion I loved looking at the #TeamSELF on Instagram. There’s a serious community working their asses off and it’s pretty much impossible not to be inspired.

My best advice would be to find your why.

Take some time to sit down and get prepared. Jumping into things without a why usually leaves you making excuses for why you don’t want to. Without a clear vision of why you want to do something you’ll often let other distractions get in your way.

The change in my why was extremely powerful for me. And, I think I’ll go back and try the other fitness programs again in the future because I can easily apply this mindset to those workouts.

You may be asking, “Why no before and after picture?” Well, that’s because I’m not into the physical comparison anymore. Everyone’s fitness journey is different and what this challenge did for my body will be completely different than what it does for yours. Ultimately I learned that fitness challenges are about so much more than just the physical. This was about holding myself accountable, adding variety to my gym time and stepping out of my comfort zone. Done and done.

via: self.com

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“I thought I'd forgiven him, but images of him with her kept coming into my head when we made love.”

When my friend asked me to meet up for coffee, I thought it would be a normal catch-up session. Instead, I sat there in shock as she told me her boyfriend of three years had cheated on her—this smart, gorgeous goddess of a person, although that doesn’t really stop people, right?—and that she was at a complete loss as to what to do. She was tempted to say yes to his begging that they repair the relationship, but she had some major qualms. How are you supposed to rebuild trust when someone has taken a wrecking ball to it? Why the hell did he cheat in the first place? And, uh, how was she supposed to resume having sex with him at any point in the future when this revelation was making her skin crawl?

When talking about the post-cheating fallout in a relationship, people often focus on the emotional side of things, which makes perfect sense. But if you decide to work on staying together after someone cheats, the physical part of the relationship can loom large. Here, five women explain exactly what it’s like to have sex with the person you love after they cheated on you. Hint: If you’re in this position and feel completely freaked, you are so not alone.

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“Before he cheated, we had sex multiple times a week, couldn’t keep our hands off each other, and there was passion like you wouldn’t believe. I should have known he was cheating when he became distant and gave excuses for not wanting to have sex as much. After he cheated, sex was absolutely painful. We went on a three-month break, and when we got back together, I proposed that we rebuild the relationship and wait to have sex. But then I thought if he wasn’t getting sex from me, he’d get it from someone else. It never felt the way it did pre-cheating, almost like it wasn’t real. I lost that passion, and in the back of my mind, I wondered if he was still seeing other women.” —Hillary K., 28

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“After my husband slept with someone else, I thought I’d forgiven him, but images of him with her kept coming into my head when we made love. I kept wondering what they’d done together, imagined him inside her. I actually started thinking of his penis as contaminated. I didn’t want to do all the sexual things I felt comfortable doing with him before because they were no longer intimacies between just the two of us. I also didn’t believe him when he said nice things about me—in fact, I didn’t trust anything he said. That feeling never left me, and I never let him get as close to me emotionally again.” —Anne L., 53

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“Our sex life used to be great; we were always trying new things. Then I found out that he cheated. At the time, I didn’t feel like it was worth losing my husband and breaking up our family, so I told myself everyone makes mistakes. The first time having sex after the cheating was so emotional. I felt uncomfortable, unattractive, and it did nothing for me physically. Over time, I went in the opposite direction. I strived to be over the top, to be sexier than I had been, and even tried things I was against in the past. Eventually, I discovered the problem was bigger than me—it was about his urges to cheat, and no matter how sexy I acted, I couldn’t change that.” —LaTossa N., 39

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“I was completely blindsided when I caught my husband of 25 years at the time texting another woman. Then the truth about his cheating came out. At first in the aftermath, I could not even have sex with him. We made out a few times and stopped at kissing. When I did allow my heart to be that vulnerable again, I found that I could no longer reach orgasm. It was brutal to be so close to a climax and then see the other woman’s face in my head, or to imagine his naked body with her.It was several months before I was able to orgasm again. Now, five years later, I am thrilled to say that we’re enjoying sex one to two times per week in a capacity that is meaningful and fulfilling for both of us.” —Stacey G., 52

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“One morning, a woman slid into my Instagram DMs and told me she and my ‘boyfriend’—I use that term loosely—had been sleeping together and dating each other for a couple months. I didn’t sleep with him for over a month after I found out, and the first time I did, I began to cry shortly after we began. I was thinking about him with the other woman and the qualities she had that I didn’t. We broke up about a week after that incident. The crying made me realize this guy hurt me to my core. I’d wondered throughout our year-long courtship whether or not he really cared for me. At the moment I started crying, I said to myself, ‘Nope he doesn’t.’” —Talisha H., 28

Quotes have been edited and condensed for clarity.

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Keep your marriage just as vibrant as it was on your honeymoon.

YourTango explains that marriage doesn’t have to mean kissing passion goodbye.

True or false? The can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other honeymoon phase wears off in every marriage. If you’re like most of us, you probably answered “true.” But before you panic that marriage automatically turns late-night rendezvous into late-night Letterman, know this: according to a recent survey of more than 20,000 people conducted by YourTango, Glo and Chemistry.com, 90 percent of people believe that if attraction in a relationship decreases, it is possible to re-ignite it. Even better news? It’s true!

There’s proof that the high people get from first falling in love actually can persist years into a relationship.
In a recent experiment, Helen Fisher, Ph.D., biological anthropologist and author of Why Him? Why Her?, looked at brain scans of couples who had been married an average of 21 years who said they were still romantically in love with their partners. “We found that the area in their brain that’s responsible for romantic love that was just as lit up as people who had just fallen in love,” Fisher says. But what if lust and attraction have waned?

“It’s totally natural for the type of love you feel for your partner to shift over time,” Fisher assures. “There are three brain systems involved with falling and staying in love—sex drive, romantic love, and a deep feeling of attachment. It’s natural for couples to move from one phase to another, and back.” Want to keep your marriage just as sexy as it was on your honeymoon? Here are seven secrets about how to hold onto that loving feeling through every relationship stage.

1. Flaunt your sexy self.
The first step to staying attractive to each other: Feeling attractive. There’s nothing more appealing than a woman who feels sexy in her own skin. And there’s no bigger libido-booster for women than feeling that way, says Mary Jo Rapini. Only you know what makes you feel sexy—whether it’s wearing sexy underthings or getting in a great sweat session at the gym—but there is one feel-sexy secret that’s universal: Talk about sex.

Fisher’s study found that women who talked about sex with their spouses for 10 minutes a day had the same sexual desire as women who took a libido-boosting medication. And chitchat benefits men, too: “Ninety-five percent of men and women say that talking about their relationship boosted intimacy,” Fisher says. Talk about a win-win!

2. Have sex. Lots of it.
“The more sex you have, the sexier you feel and the more you’ll want to do it,” Fisher says. Another bonus: The dopamine and oxytocin that’s released after sex will make you feel closer than ever.

3. Be a little selfish.
The happiest marriages are the kinds in which both spouses have their own hobbies and interests, according to a Monmouth University study. Maintaining those interests and finding new ones keeps your relationship fresh and guarantees that you’ll stay irresistible to each other. So take a French lesson and encourage your spouse to indulge their love of bird watching. You’ll both learn something new about yourselves, and each other.

4. Step out of your comfort zone.
If your Chinese delivery restaurant knows your Friday night order by heart, listen up: One of the best ways to stay hot for each other is to do new things together. “Novelty drives up dopamine in the brain and that’s linked with feelings of intense romantic love,” Fisher says. Adds Karen Holland, “Doing any new activity together makes people feel alive, and we connect that high with our partners.” So forgo your dinner date, and take a hike through a local nature reserve or explore a local city. Anything that gets your adrenaline going will get your hearts racing for each other.

5. Have an affair…with your partner.
Having an affair with your spouse can bring back the feelings of excitement and closeness—not to mention the smoking hot sex—that you had when you first met, Love says. So send each other sexy texts when you least expect it, buy racy lingerie, sneak away for a nooner at a hotel, or meet at bar and pretend you don’t know each other. “Tap into that playfulness and passion, and you’ll start looking at your partner in a new, sexy, light,” she says.

6. Celebrate the good times.
Couples who celebrate joyous moments together have the happiest, most trusting, and most committed relationships, a University of California study found. “When you share your spouse’s excitement—whether it’s over completing a 5K or getting a new job—you project that joy onto your partner,” Holland says. “And nothing is more attractive than a person who loves her life.” So celebrate each other’s big and small successes to become a person that everyone wants to be around, especially your spouse.

7. Compete!
Pitting yourself against your partner can boost attraction, add chemistry, and lead to a hotter sex life. A Pennsylvania State University study found that competition ups libido-boosting testosterone in men and women. “People interpret that competitive rush as a connection to their partner,” Love says. Challenge your spouse to a tennis match, bet who can guess the amount closest to the dinner bill, or race them to the top of the stairs. Then, hit the sheets!

Originally written by Nicole Jurick, YourTango

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